Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Don't worry, I'm not talking about us. I'm talking about our guests. In the last few months, we've had 3 invited couples break-up. All 3 were in long-term relationships and all 3 just sort of broke up. I know that all 3 of these break-ups were hard and some more complicated than others. For us, it was hard because through each break-up, we sort of lost a friend (at least temporarily). Each couple consisted of someone we were really good friends with and a partner we were just getting to know and like or become pretty good friends with. When couples like that break up, we usually end up severing or suspending ties with the partner until things settle down. It's complicated but doable until your friends break-up around your wedding. Then what are you suppose to do.

Are they still coming as a couple (if they broke-up on good terms)? Possibly but probably not. Do you have to say something to one or either person? Probably but it's weird and awkward. They just broke up and your worried about your numbers? Lame. Do you just leave it and pretend that your friend's ex (and your new friend) may come anyway and just make sure the couple isn't sitting together? All tough questions.

And what do you do if your friend breaks-up with their partner and the is partner invited to other events like bachelor party, showers, after party? We'd love to have the former partners attend but we want to be sensitive to our friend's feelings and we don't want to make their former partners uncomfortable or put on the spot.

I'm telling you, breaking up is hard to do even when you're not breaking up. Anyone have good friends break-up before your wedding? How did you handle it in terms of the guest list and other wedding events?